I am 19 and a half today.
In 6 months time I will be 20.
I always thought it was just something older people said but time really does fly so fast. I can’t believe how much has happened since I was 11/12 in Year 7, doing everything as perfectly as I possibly could.
Now everything is a little bit messier and a lot more stressful even if I’m not a ‘real’ adult yet. I find myself getting excited when Casualty is on after the watershed or buying blister plasters instead of regular ones.
I have lots of qualities about me that would usually be assigned to a child. For example I sleep with my childhood teddy bear, I would rather spend time with my family than anybody else and I still (and always will) read YA fiction. However I also have middle-aged qualities like regularly watching Holby City, having a fortnightly delivery from Graze and I’m part of a poetry forum…
So really, if you put these together I suppose being 19 and a half does average out!
8 things to do now you’ve realised how close to 20 you are.
- Realise that statistically you have quite a good few years left in you yet so there’s absolutely no point in worrying as much as you are right now about anything.
- Understand that we live in a totally different world than our parents or grandparents did at this age. Don’t compare your lives with theirs and if you do, refer back to #1.
- Whilst you shouldn’t be crying with stress over the future, do have a plan! If you’re studying, work out what you could do with your qualification at the end of it. If you’re working, find out what the next step in your career is. You don’t need a rigid 10 year plan but having no aims doesn’t give you anything to improve on.
- Find out what makes you happy! If staying in on Saturday nights watching Casualty with your parents makes you happy by all means follow in my footsteps and go for it! It goes without saying but if something doesn’t make you happy, or you’re not getting anything out of it don’t do it!
- Learn how to use the washing machine. It’s not that difficult.
- Take up a hobby! It doesn’t have to be joining a club or anything hugely intense but just having something you enjoy doing such as collecting items or drawing can be a good stress reliever.
- Work out how much sleep you’re getting per night and compare it with how much you need for a good night’s rest. I’m confident that going by the time of night they share posts or appear as Online, most of my FB friends do not get nearly enough sleep. It’s so important for both your physical and mental health! It goes without saying that I don’t get enough sleep or I oversleep completely. (Hey, these tips are for me too.)
- Learn how to say no! You don’t have to attend every social event that you’re invited to. If you don’t feel up to it or you just want to spend some time alone then people will understand if you decline their offer. Make a good balance however, you don’t want people to stop inviting you.
I hope at least one of these tips have helped you, even if you’re not the same age as me.
Love as always,